Monday, June 29, 2015

Who can taste the rainbow!?

Okay, granted, that might not be the best turn of phrase to celebrate an incredible moment in history.

WASHINGTON — In a long-sought victory for the gay rights movement, the Supreme Court ruled by a 5-to-4 vote on Friday that the Constitution guarantees a right to same-sex marriage.

“No longer may this liberty be denied,” Justice Anthony M. Kennedy wrote for the majority in the historic decision. “No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were.”

Marriage is a “keystone of our social order,” Justice Kennedy said, adding that the plaintiffs in the case were seeking “equal dignity in the eyes of the law.”


As many of you who visit here regularly are aware, I do identify as a Christian woman.
My creed is thus:  Forever Imperfect; Eternally Forgiven.
And my choice is to walk that often tricky spiritual walk with Love as my balance pole.    If you have ever read the Bible, you should clearly see that was actually our greatest Commandment given to us by Jesus.

I also read New Age spiritual books, and study Buddhism, and enjoy a cold beer on a hot day, and utter a colourful curse like a good Irish gal when the mood overtakes me.
I am complicated.
Kinda like a human being that way.

So here's another loop I'll throw at you:  I totally support the decision of Equality in Marriage.
Well, at the very core, I feel the choice to marry, is a Fundamental Human Right.   You don't have the right to decide who can get married and who can not, based on your own personal beliefs.

In my personal opinion, this is a Human Rights issue; and not a Morality one.
Because you do not get to decide and/or enforce another individuals moral code.

You of course are free to have your own.
Their personal choice should have no affect on yours.   Unless you are afraid of something.
Are you afraid of something?

Say this out loud for me:

I don't believe that is right; therefore YOU cannot do it.

One more time for the people in the back.

I don't approve of how you use Free Will; so I will take it away. 

ooowww, does that sting a little bit fellow Christians?
Last time I checked, God had not recalled His gift of Free Will, so why are we doing it for Him?

Matthew 22:37, “Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.”

 There is another argument I see floating around.   Spat out by frustrated heterosexuals who have grown weary of being confronted with the equally frustrated complaints of an oppressed group of people.
Oh, you are tired of hearing about?
Imagine LIVING it.  Daily.

And then the lie is spat out:

"Well, you don't see me going around proclaiming I AM STRAIGHT and waving flags and throwing parades to honour my choice of sexuality.  Why do they have to be so In Your Face."

I gotta tell you, I am growing weary of telling people to take the Stupid out of their mouth.


Every time you get to hold hands, or kiss, with your significant other in public, and not endure the judgmental and hateful glares of those who witness it.  You proclaim it.

Every time you get to share a story about how you spent your weekend with the love of your life, and people don't hush you because they don't want to know what straight couples do.    You proclaim it.

Every time you can freely walk into a restaurant, a library, a movie theatre... and sit with your partner and not have to hold back your affections for fear of looks of disgust and disapproval - YOU PROCLAIM IT.

Every wedding you attend and are free to celebrate without a group of protesters waving signs condemning Your Love.   You celebrate and honour the love chosen.

Every time you attend an event at your child's school, sporting event, dance class, or piano recital and can stand proudly beside your partner, beaming with love for the child you are raising.   You proclaim it.

Every time you sit in the church pew with your love....  oh wait.  not that one.   Sorry, my bad.

Let me stress this point very very clearly:  As a straight person in this world, you are not expected to keep a very important, special part of you A Secret.   You are not expected to hide your love away because others find your sexual activity repulsive.    You do not have to introduce your lover as your best friend, or Uncle John;  thus robbing them of their identity and rightful place at your side.

To live a lie.
You are free to walk around, living your truth.   

I really need people to grasp that point: because Just Imagine.

Christians are still entitled to their beliefs, and you may openly preach them!!! 
If you feel they are lost sinners doomed to the fire; then by all means, pray for them.  
That is your choice.

Be loud!  Be proud!!  
Be respectful!!!

"I don't have to accept this. I don't want to be of this world" you say?
Oh, yeah.  I do get that, but I think we have to let go of this notion that acting civilly towards those we disagree with, also means that you "accept" their lifestyle by default.  
Why you gotta be so in their face, eh?!
No, you are accepting that they are another human being who has the right to make their own choices, independent of your own, in this world.
Also, I feel the need to point out an obvious truth which your condemnation illustrates:   it is the World that loves in half measures.

It is the way of the world to only love those that love in return.
You want to be less like the world, and more like your God?

Then you need to grasp and hold tight to the single most important aspect of your Faith.
That showing love to someone is not a stamp of approval on their lifestyle or choices.

Anytime we accept a fellow human being, with all their faults and failings; anytime we choose to embrace another of God's children instead of pushing them away in disgust; we are choosing to Love.

And that my friends, is how Love Wins. 

For all of us.

*I invite your comments on this issue, which I admit is a Hot Topic, I only ask we all be respectful.  I will delete any comment that is rude or hateful.*

About The Author
Leslie Botchar, aka "RoryBore", is a SAHM enjoying life one day - and one cup of coffee - at at time.
She has had several articles published in The Huffington Post, and hopes to one day marry her skills as Word Wrangler and Photo Ninja. Leslie spills it all on her blog Time Out For Mom, and invites you to join her for some Mom "Me" Time.
Connect with her: Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.

Saturday, June 27, 2015

The journey to be still continues.

Yeah, you're right... that didn't sound quite... right.
Darn brain noise again.

Also, the lawnmower is the single most evil invention in the history of ever.
Especially on nice relaxing summer days.
How can I be in the Now, with that neighbour mowing his lawn 4 feet away Right NOW!!

See, this is why it's a journey, and not a sprint.

This struggle to be in the Now.
To be Present.

When so much buzzes in my head - No, Look At Me!!!

How to fully soak up this time, because I do know it passes so quick.
It can be so hard when there are very little quiet and still moments to centre yourself. 

(3 children, my husband and his running partner just ran through my previous quiet office kitchen to grab various items: bananas, glasses of water, or to bring me weeds flowers.)

I am Learning to make the most of the moments that pass so quick, but some days, it does pass me by.   I feel often that I can never quite catch my breath.  It's a quick gulp at the surface.  And right back under. 

Floating, suspended, watching from above; but not really participating.

I need to get better at taking the deep breathes when I can.  Stop treading water so much.   To not just simply enjoy the view while floating.     But dip down every now and then and sample this nectar of life.   

Yet,  I need an anchor too.

That's the hard part:  what do I anchor myself too, when the world is full of so many things competing for my attachment?
Some real; some not so much.
Some would look like an anchor, but actually just be a Weight pulling me under. 

Dear Self:  
You can only lose what you cling to.  
~  Buddha

The moments I am creating are definitely deep breathes for me.  I have finally become good at telling people I need them.  That it's not their job to understand why.  I'm not their problem to solve. 

It really doesn't matter if it looks like a pointless pursuit to you.
The mindless distractions are okay too.   I tell you what:  I won't get so worried about any persons distraction that I find distasteful to me.  I can scroll past. I don't have to participate.  And you don't get upset about mine.  Deal?

I pull the weeds in my own garden;  and you are responsible for your weeds. 

The secret for all of us is learning what are the things that help us blossom..... and what are the things that would choke and wither the bloom.

ImagesByCW Photography

About The Author
Leslie Botchar, aka "RoryBore", is a SAHM enjoying life one day - and one cup of coffee - at at time.
She has had several articles published in The Huffington Post, and hopes to one day marry her skills as Word Wrangler and Photo Ninja. Leslie spills it all on her blog Time Out For Mom, and invites you to join her for some Mom "Me" Time.
Connect with her: Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.

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